The Beginner’s Guide to Raising Your Standards

The Beginner's Guide to Raising Your Standards

What are Standards?

Your personal standards refer to the behaviour and actions you are willing to hold yourself to. They are the way in which you have chosen to behave, and the higher your standards, the better your life.

The Benefits of Raising Your Standards

When you have high standards you…

  • feel very good about yourself and others. 
  • become irresistibly attractive to high quality people. 
  • don’t even get near people or situations that cause problems.  

Your Self-esteem and Self-worth increase

  • Living your life according to a set of standards you admire and respect is one of the fastest ways to improve your self-worth and self-esteem – and it’s the most sustainable.  

High standards help you get your needs met.

  • Standards are based on values, so when your standards are high you also have values that inspire you.
  • When you are inspired by your values and acting consistently with them via your standards, your needs will be fulfilled almost automatically. 

Stuff you don’t want stops coming into your life.

  • As you attract more of what you do want, the stuff you don’t want falls by the wayside.  

You tolerate less..instinctively. 

What are some examples of standards?

Key Points about Standards

  • Being unconditionally constructive with everything you say or do with another. 
  • Being fully responsible for everything (good or bad) that happens around you. 
  • When given the choice of being right or being kind, be kind.  
  • Maintaining a reserve that gives you peace. 
  • Telling the truth, even if there is a consequence. 
  • Putting people ahead of results. 
  • Paying your bills on time.
  1.   Personal standards are a choice.  
  2.   There are different levels of standards.  
  3.   Standards are what YOU set for yourself.  
  4.   Standards are not affirmations.  
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The First Step in Raising Your Standards

There are 5 steps to raising your standards and the first is called Clean Sweep. The Clean Sweep Program consists of 100 items which, when completed, give you the vitality and strength you want. You have more natural energy when you are clear with your environment, health and emotional balance, money and relationships.  

Where to start

Start the Clean Sweep program and try to get 5-15 points. This will give you a burst of energy and a reference base for successfully raising your standards. You can then decide what area you would like to work on next and challenge yourself with a new points score for 30, 60 or 90 days from now. Don’t feel pressured to rush it. It’s more important to gradually work on increasing your points total. Please note that there may be some areas that you will never check off…and that’s ok as long as they are not causing you to be distracted or feel incomplete.

This week’s worksheet for my e-zine Brain Food Friday readers walks you through Step One of the 5 Steps. If you want to receive access to my weekly worksheets, sign up to receive my weekly blog in your inbox by clicking on the round green “click here” button. You’ll start receiving Brain Food Friday in your inbox each Friday along with a link to that week’s worksheet starting next week.

3 Ways Authentic Leaders Benefit From a Higher EQ

3 Ways Authentic Leaders Benefit From Higher EQ

Authentic leaders know that consciously working on their emotional intelligence (EI) or EQ (Emotional Quotient) score is not only critical to leadership success but also a life-long journey. 

According to TTI Talent Insights, a higher EQ makes you a better authentic leader by:

Focus on Yourself....

As you become more and more self-aware, you are then more able to self-regulate and ultimately improve your relationships with others.

Improving Rapport, Connection & Communication....

An authentic leader consistently behaves in congruence with their values, the organization’s mission, and makes people proud to work under this leader. The authentic leader that is socially aware and is mastering social regulation, understands the emotions of others and how to positively influence the emotional clarity of others. In other words, the authentic leader is very skilled at the art of observation and active listening.

Increasing Your Empathy....

The authentic leader inspires their people to believe in themselves and their work. This is that internal motivation is the “fire” that goes beyond external drive. Your internal fire will inspire others to light their own internal fires.

Click on the button below to obtain your copy of the 3 Ways EQ Makes You a Better Leader Infographic

Don’t hesitate to contact me to learn how EQ can become part of your learning and development plans strategy. Simply send me an email to begin the conversation.

Influence: Art & Science

Influence: An Art & A Science

Leaders often find themselves in high-stakes influence conversations. Influence is having a conversation with a clear outcome, so that the other person thinks, feels and behaves how you wanted them to think, feel and behave…with authenticity and without manipulation.

The most successful leaders....

The most successful leaders influence others to embrace and implement their ideas. There is an art and a science to influence, and to knowing the right conversations to have with others in order to get results, while still keeping the relationship strong.

Do you know someone that is an effective influencer? How would you describe that person? Certainly well developed emotional intelligence comes to mind. But what else? What’s the secret?

Can you relate to any of these statements?

You can learn

There are steps you can take to learn that art and science of influence. One of the steps involves being prepared and having your bases covered before going into a high-stakes conversation.

Click on the worksheet image to the right to download your copy of our Influence Planning Tool.

Being prepared and anticipating situations will help you move the yardstick in the direction you want.

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